We had some great dialogue on the "Coffee with Queenie" call last week. If you missed the group call, here's what you missed:
I asked: Do you find yourself saying "yes" to activities you really do not want to do? Do you wish there was a simple way to tell someone "no"?
I acknowledged that the callers are pretty fantastic. Of course, it would be expected that everyone and their momma would be asking them to be on their committee, or take on a new project, or work with a difficult client because you are the "difficult-client whisperer".
Not that all these things sound terrible (except for that last one), but if we are already feeling the weight of the world, carrying out the tasks retailed to these activities could start to make a person feel resentful, irritated and disengaged.
Check out this video on how to avoid over committing.
Then, there are the activities we gladly commit to because we really want to participate but then discover, we do not have the time to commit to them any more. Ever hear of the "Shiny Penny Syndrome"...it's when you spot something you desire or really want and then moments later, you are onto the next best thing.
For instance, I go to a lot of personal and professional development workshops. Sometimes, we will hear about more opportunities to attend more workshops or get access to more tools, gadgets, bells and whistles. It is totally common for seminar participants to get caught up in the hype and spend thousands, if not tens of thousands of dollars on these programs. Now, I truly feel that many of these "opportunities" are valid and they are great for some people...just not always great for me.
After I made a costly decision at one of these seminars, I vowed to ask myself these two questions every time I was asked to make a commitment to something new:
1. Is this something that in completely in line with my vision and the direction I am headed?
2. Is this something I can commit to 100 percent?
The next time you find yourself being asked to commit to an activity you really do not want to do or think you have the time for, ask yourself these questions. If you cannot say "yes" to both of these questions, then perhaps it is best that you decline the offer or invitation.
How do you decline or say no without offending anyone?
First, be honest. Let them know you would love to help but you really have a ton on your plate. Say something like, "I really want to respect your deadlines and at the moment, I don't think I could realistically commit. I appreciate you thinking of me."
Second, stop worrying about what others think of you! If people are judging you and speaking negatively about you, do you really need to be involved with anything that person is asking you to do? Stop the madness, stop caring about other people's opinions of you!
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